A Holy War Rages
In the decade of fake "Holy Wars," I have actually discovered proof of a real-life Holy War occurring in the South Seas. In this corner ladies and gentlemen, we have the "Seasoned Christians" whom are use to fighting these wars, in the opposite corner, we have the "John Frum Movement", normally peaceful but will fight when provoked. In case you're wondering, the "John Frum Movement" is a Cult.This Cult on the island of Tanna in Vanuatu in the South Pacific worship a man by the name of John Frum. The Islanders believe that John Frum is an American who will come back for them someday. These Islanders are a patriotic bunch. They march around with our American Flag, they wear uniforms with badges, in the hopes that these items will aid "John Frum" in coming back to them. They have a day that recognizes the first day they raised the American Flag. These Islanders within this Cargo Cult are basically more patriotic than most Americans. This movement began back in War World II when of course Americans were within the South Pacific. This era was a defining moment for this Cult. The "John Frum Movement" has existed peacefully for fifty years, reveling in the hopes of

Pros and Cons of Printer Ink Refills
Printer ink refills can save you a lot of money compared to buying new cartridges every time you run out of ink. They can cost as little as 10% of the price of an original ink cartridge.There are a few things you need to be aware of, though, if you're going to use refill kits.The first thing to keep in mind is that each brand and model of printer uses slightly different types of ink. If you use a "generic" refill kit that claims to work for any printer, chances are it's not going to work very well on any of them.You need to be sure to get a refill that is specifically compatible with your brand and model of printer, to get the best results.Another thing to consider is how many refills you get from a kit. Many refill kits include enough ink to refill a cartridge 3 or 4 times.While this can keep the price down, remember that a cartridge should only be refilled a couple of times before it is replaced. After that, it will start to malfunction and it won't matter how good the refill ink is, your print quality will still be poor.If you buy a refill that has enough ink for multiple uses, you can always buy a new (or remanufactured)

In Business, Writing Well is a Necessity
You can all relax. This is not a grammar lesson.It is not enough to do a good job. You must also give the appearances of doing a good job. That is why writing well is so important. Writing well is not an add-on to your job skills. It is a central part of it. Your writing must communicate you doing a good job. Many who read your reports will never meet you. Yet they have powerful influences over your career. Their only vision of you is through your writings.Since only your writings are available to them, the writing must be outstanding. You are outstanding. Your writing must reflect that.Just what are we trying to achieve when we write? The US novelist Robert Stone said it best: "What you're trying to do when you write is to crowd the reader out of his own space and occupy it with yours, in a good cause. You're trying to take over his sensibility and deliver an experience that moves them just from mere information."Writing is thinking on paper. Anyone with a clear logical mind can write well. You have such a mind or you would not be here. Writing well is a three-step process. And you have already mastered the first two:Knowledge.hic surveys, the majority that stay together are finding more disappointment than happiness.

In this series of articles I describe many ways we can make our relationships healthier and happier. But in this article, I describe the importance of skillful partner selection in helping make your family a happy one. I have learned through painful personal experience and years of work as a therapist that no matter how many relationship skills one may have developed, they are useless when we are in a love relationship with an inappropriate partner.

There are some basic questions that I feel must be addressed, hopefully within the first two dates, in order to determine true compatibility and avoid wasting time, maybe years, and lots of tears, on the wrong relationship. You should find out what your partner's vision of a love relationship is all about. This question would seem unnecessary or absurd in a traditional culture where the roles and duties of Husband and Wife are well defined by tradition. Such a society however is a long way from the world in which we live.

I recall when I met my first wife how thrilled I was to hear that she wanted to have a child and be a mother. It was only after the birth of my son that she informed me that she wanted nothing to do with his care, because she intended to spend all her time in preparation for a successful career as a world renowned therapist. "Why don't we hire an au pair?" she would ask whenever I tried to insist that she spend some time at home.

While it is not my purpose to judge her lifestyle choices, or anyone else's, I have to admit to my shock and dismay at discovering how totally different her vision of family life was f

ationship skills one may have developed, they are useless when we are in a love relationship with an inappropriate partner.

There are some basic questions that I feel must be addressed, hopefully within the first two dates, in order to determine true compatibility and avoid wasting time, maybe years, and lots of tears, on the wrong relationship. You should find out what your partner's vision of a love relationship is all about. This question would seem unnecessary or absurd in a traditional culture where the roles and duties of Husband and Wife are well defined by tradition. Such a society however is a long way from the world in which we live.

I recall when I met my first wife how thrilled I was to hear that she wanted to have a child and be a mother. It was only after the birth of my son that she informed me that she wanted nothing to do with his care, because she intended to spend all her time in preparation for a successful career as a world renowned therapist. "Why don't we hire an au pair?" she would ask whenever I tried to insist that she spend some time at home.

While it is not my purpose to judge her lifestyle choices, or anyone else's, I have to admit to my shock and dismay at discovering how totally different her vision of family life was f

l about. This question would seem unnecessary or absurd in a traditional culture where the roles and duties of Husband and Wife are well defined by tradition. Such a society however is a long way from the world in which we live.

I recall when I met my first wife how thrilled I was to hear that she wanted to have a child and be a mother. It was only after the birth of my son that she informed me that she wanted nothing to do with his care, because she intended to spend all her time in preparation for a successful career as a world renowned therapist. "Why don't we hire an au pair?" she would ask whenever I tried to insist that she spend some time at home.

While it is not my purpose to judge her lifestyle choices, or anyone else's, I have to admit to my shock and dismay at discovering how totally different her vision of family life was f

do with his care, because she intended to spend all her time in preparation for a successful career as a world renowned therapist. "Why don't we hire an au pair?" she would ask whenever I tried to insist that she spend some time at home.

While it is not my purpose to judge her lifestyle choices, or anyone else's, I have to admit to my shock and dismay at discovering how totally different her vision of family life was from mine. And I blame no one but myself for not getting absolutely clear on what "motherhood" meant for her, before committing to a marriage that was wrong for both of us.

Many years ago a couple came to me because they heard I could work miracles as a counselor. They explained they had tried hard to make it work for two years, but needed help. The first thing I asked was for each to describe to me their separate visions of the ideal marriage. Both were absolutely clear.

He said, and I paraphrase: "Love for me is about freedom, the freedom to travel anywhere I want, sleep with anyone I want, and know that my beloved is having her own separate adventures which we will share when we are joyously reunited."

She said: "Love for me is about security. I want to know that every night he will, if possible, spend with me. I believe in faithfulness. I want to live together and raise children in the secure nest of our love."

My response to this couple was that I was not willing to waste their money and time on therapy. I recommended they see a divorce attorney and then get on with their search for a compatible partner. Although they spent another two years of pain and frustration before they gave up on each other, today I still stand by that conclusion.

I believe that in today's liberated moral climate we have an enormous opportunity to reinvent love relationships and free ourselves from the traditional patriarchal model of breadwinner and housewife. Many of us are using this opportunity to explore open relationships, multiple partnering, and new domestic roles.

I have found however that most people looking for a life partner are very clear about what kind of mar