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Like an on-off switch, we make one or the other - there are no variances to this. Because it's as simple as Yes or No - and so often we get it wrong.

You see it's those times that we say 'Yes', when it would serve us much better to say 'No' and we often say 'No' when there are real benefits in saying 'Yes'.

So, let's take a look at those situations we get ourselves into.

• Saying 'No' More

  It is quite natural to say 'Yes'. We do it every day in our lives and it is the least confrontational thing we can do.

  Agreeing to the wishes of others pampers to our inner need to be liked, to be loved.

  Man is a social animal. We like to be liked by our peers - and so we go along with them.

  In business this is no different. It is tough, for most of us, to say 'No'. So we agree - we comply. And with what consequences?

  Saying 'Yes', way too often, leads us to complications we could do without. In the worst cases we take on tasks that others ask us to do, without question, which grinds us down, makes us bitter and generates a 'blame' culture.

  We agree to things that others, maybe stronger, maybe ju

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  ou see it's those times that we say 'Yes', when it would serve us much better to say 'No' and we often say 'No' when there are real benefits in saying 'Yes'.

  So, let's take a look at those situations we get ourselves into.

  • Saying 'No' More

    It is quite natural to say 'Yes'. We do it every day in our lives and it is the least confrontational thing we can do.

    Agreeing to the wishes of others pampers to our inner need to be liked, to be loved.

    Man is a social animal. We like to be liked by our peers - and so we go along with them.

    In business this is no different. It is tough, for most of us, to say 'No'. So we agree - we comply. And with what consequences?

    Saying 'Yes', way too often, leads us to complications we could do without. In the worst cases we take on tasks that others ask us to do, without question, which grinds us down, makes us bitter and generates a 'blame' culture.

    We agree to things that others, maybe stronger, maybe ju

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    'No' More

    It is quite natural to say 'Yes'. We do it every day in our lives and it is the least confrontational thing we can do.

    Agreeing to the wishes of others pampers to our inner need to be liked, to be loved.

    Man is a social animal. We like to be liked by our peers - and so we go along with them.

    In business this is no different. It is tough, for most of us, to say 'No'. So we agree - we comply. And with what consequences?

    Saying 'Yes', way too often, leads us to complications we could do without. In the worst cases we take on tasks that others ask us to do, without question, which grinds us down, makes us bitter and generates a 'blame' culture.

    We agree to things that others, maybe stronger, maybe ju

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    animal. We like to be liked by our peers - and so we go along with them.

    In business this is no different. It is tough, for most of us, to say 'No'. So we agree - we comply. And with what consequences?

    Saying 'Yes', way too often, leads us to complications we could do without. In the worst cases we take on tasks that others ask us to do, without question, which grinds us down, makes us bitter and generates a 'blame' culture.

    We agree to things that others, maybe stronger, maybe ju

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    to complications we could do without. In the worst cases we take on tasks that others ask us to do, without question, which grinds us down, makes us bitter and generates a 'blame' culture.

    We agree to things that others, maybe stronger, maybe just more thick-skinned, thrust at us.

    Passing accountability to us, who say 'Yes'. Way too often.

    One solution to this is simple. At least put off 'Yes' decisions some of the time.

    By positive procrastination, we can put ourselves off making the wrong 'Yes' decision in haste - so make it tomorrow by coming up with a few 'let me think about it' phrases.

    By training ourselves, on just a few occasions to start with, we build our strength to say 'No' a little more each day. People start to realise we aren't a pushover anymore.

    Another solution, is to agree only on our terms. To say 'Yes' with a proviso. That a new ad-hoc piece of work can only be done if something else is dropped. Or on our timescale.

    Pushing back on someone else's urgency helps them to realise that there needs to be a different way - and they gradually learn to treat you differently too. New 'boundaries' are set. And everyone wins.

    And now the opposite!

  • Accepting a 'Yes' is OK