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Suggest You - Get Over Yourself
A friend of mine emailed a photo that was rather shocking. It was a 1978 staff photo of Microsoft Corporation – there are only seven people pictured. In the lower left-hand corner Bill Gates looks about twelve-years-old while in the lower right-hand corner, scraggly bearded fellow multi-billionaire Paul Allen looks like a techie nerd. The email was entitled, “Would You Invest?”When that photo was taken, almost no one, other than those in the largest of businesses and universities had a computer on their desk. Today almost everyone in business uses a
Or we sit in the airport because of a delay. We sit and we sit. We
"Well Dave, here's how it is. Thanks to Oracle, we have most of the parts we need for all of the products. However, we don’t have all of the parts we need for any of the products."That quote came from the Director of Purchasing regarding the new Oracle system the company had just implemented. Honesty was long overdue. We were working in a $500 million dollar tech outfit at the time, when the VP of Op's flew into town to stop the riot. He was going to set everyone straight and tell us straight up ‘how it was’.He started the meeting with this gem.Let me tell you a secret.
Things don’t always go the way we want them to.
Let me tell you another secret.
We don’t always hear what we want to hear.
Duh.
These two statements are hardly secrets; we all know they are true. If they aren’t secrets, then why do we act surprised when it happens? And worse, why does the surprise often turn to pouting?
Adult Pouting
Most adults don’t walk around with a pout on their face, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t pouting. Pouting is when we are having an internal pity party because we haven’t gotten what we wanted, things haven’t gone the way we’d hoped they might, we heard something we didn’t want to hear or disagree with, or we have to work on something when we would rather be doing something else.
So we pout.
Some Examples
We are called to a meeting, when we wanted to be working on the important project on our desk. We think things like, “I don’t need to be at this meeting. Tammy could have handled it. Why am I here? Can’t they see that my time could be better utilized elsewhere? This is ridiculous.”
Or we aren’t asked to go to the meeting and we see ourselves as really being able to contribute (or really wanting to be there because it is about an important change that we want to be in-the-know about). We think, “Why can’t I be there? My experience would make a difference. Besides, this could have been my chance to shine for the new VP over in Marketing. Being there would be a much better use of my time than working on these numbers. This is ridiculous.”
Or we sit in the airport because of a delay. We sit and we sit. We
Customers don’t expect you to be perfect. They do expect you to fix things when they go wrong. - Donald Porter V.P., British AirwaysMARK is a local celebrity in his city. When his “big sister” and her husband visit, Mark likes to treat them to dinner in a fancy, lavish five star restaurant. On one occasion, upon arriving at the restaurant of choice, Mark and his family learned there were no reservations in his name. He calmly asked, “Well, what are we going to do fix this? I’m sure there’s something your manager can do.”The ma?tre d' returne
Adult Pouting
Most adults don’t walk around with a pout on their face, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t pouting. Pouting is when we are having an internal pity party because we haven’t gotten what we wanted, things haven’t gone the way we’d hoped they might, we heard something we didn’t want to hear or disagree with, or we have to work on something when we would rather be doing something else.
So we pout.
Some Examples
We are called to a meeting, when we wanted to be working on the important project on our desk. We think things like, “I don’t need to be at this meeting. Tammy could have handled it. Why am I here? Can’t they see that my time could be better utilized elsewhere? This is ridiculous.”
Or we aren’t asked to go to the meeting and we see ourselves as really being able to contribute (or really wanting to be there because it is about an important change that we want to be in-the-know about). We think, “Why can’t I be there? My experience would make a difference. Besides, this could have been my chance to shine for the new VP over in Marketing. Being there would be a much better use of my time than working on these numbers. This is ridiculous.”
Or we sit in the airport because of a delay. We sit and we sit. We
Here is some common sense advice for those "unchangeable for a whole year" Yellow Pages adsYellow Pages advertising is one of the most popular forms of advertising in the country today. Almost every home in America (96.9%) and business has at least one copy of "the book".Almost three out of five (58%) of all adults say they check the Yellow Pages for a phone number and/or address at least once per week, with 77% using the book monthly.While the Yellow Pages can be excellent reference tool, they are not a red hot advertising vehicle.
So we pout.
Some Examples
We are called to a meeting, when we wanted to be working on the important project on our desk. We think things like, “I don’t need to be at this meeting. Tammy could have handled it. Why am I here? Can’t they see that my time could be better utilized elsewhere? This is ridiculous.”
Or we aren’t asked to go to the meeting and we see ourselves as really being able to contribute (or really wanting to be there because it is about an important change that we want to be in-the-know about). We think, “Why can’t I be there? My experience would make a difference. Besides, this could have been my chance to shine for the new VP over in Marketing. Being there would be a much better use of my time than working on these numbers. This is ridiculous.”
Or we sit in the airport because of a delay. We sit and we sit. We
It isn't easy to get into the field of medical billing and not get hammered by all the costs. It's bad enough having to deal with the costs that you are told about up front, but when you get hit with costs that nobody told you about, that's when things can get very frustrating. The purpose of this article is to prepare you for what you're in for should you decide that you want to get into the medical billing profession.The first thing you're going to need is software to do your billing with. This isn't a hidden cost as the company will tell you right
Or we aren’t asked to go to the meeting and we see ourselves as really being able to contribute (or really wanting to be there because it is about an important change that we want to be in-the-know about). We think, “Why can’t I be there? My experience would make a difference. Besides, this could have been my chance to shine for the new VP over in Marketing. Being there would be a much better use of my time than working on these numbers. This is ridiculous.”
Or we sit in the airport because of a delay. We sit and we sit. We
As a first time entrepreneur, there are a variety of franchises, dealerships, distributorships, and licensing opportunities available for purchase. Many of these you can start by working part-time from your home. In doing so, you save thousands of dollars in start up and operating costs, while at the same time reducing your overall risk.You (and/or your spouse) don't necessarily have to give up your current career(s) or full time job(s) to start a lucrative business. There are many opportunities which exist by working part-time from your home. Most of th
Or we sit in the airport because of a delay. We sit and we sit. We miss our connection because of the delay. We miss the events we had planned for the evening. And we are still in Buffalo (or wherever). We think about what we are missing. We think about the stupid airlines or the stupid weather or the stupid travel agent that booked this itinerary.
Poor us.
In all of these cases (and a hundred others I could share) we keep our thoughts inside ourselves. We are so busy with our own internal conversation about us, that we miss any chance to benefit from the situation. In order to capitalize on any experience we have to be present for it. When we are pouting, we clearly aren’t present in the situation or experience. We are too busy focusing on ourselves.
It is time to get over ourselves. Lose the pout and get yourself out(side) of your self.
We can become much better leaders and professionals we can get past our internal language and live in the present moment. The present offers us:
• Opportunities to learn
• Opportunities to teach
• Opportunities to reinforce positive behaviors in others
• Opportunities to see our world in new ways
• Opportunities to enjoy our day more fully
Staying in pouting mode closes the door to all of these opportunities because we don’t see them –we are too busy thinking about ourselves.
Gett
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