ts often have no idea the lasting impact their words or actions have on their children. So, my negative core belief that I never make the right choices, or I am just inadequate in some way, is triggered by my friend'sWe all have needs we must meet in order to be happy, to feel content, to feel appreciated, to feel a certain amount of control over the direction of our life. When others make statements or choices that are made in an effort to meet their own needs, it often triggers a core belief in ourselves. For instance, if my friend has low self esteem and envies the new car I just bought, she may say something critical of my purchase or dismiss it in some way. That may trigger a negative belief I have lived with since childhood.

I do not believe it is necessary to blame my negative belief on anyone, although it is helpful to determine the root source for information purposes only. Remember, people, even our parents, do things because they thought it was the right thing to do at the time to meet a need. It usually is not done to purposely harm their child. Parents often have no idea the lasting impact their words or actions have on their children. So, my negative core belief that I never make the right choices, or I am just inadequate in some way, is triggered by my friend's

effort to meet their own needs, it often triggers a core belief in ourselves. For instance, if my friend has low self esteem and envies the new car I just bought, she may say something critical of my purchase or dismiss it in some way. That may trigger a negative belief I have lived with since childhood.

I do not believe it is necessary to blame my negative belief on anyone, although it is helpful to determine the root source for information purposes only. Remember, people, even our parents, do things because they thought it was the right thing to do at the time to meet a need. It usually is not done to purposely harm their child. Parents often have no idea the lasting impact their words or actions have on their children. So, my negative core belief that I never make the right choices, or I am just inadequate in some way, is triggered by my friend's

iss it in some way. That may trigger a negative belief I have lived with since childhood.

I do not believe it is necessary to blame my negative belief on anyone, although it is helpful to determine the root source for information purposes only. Remember, people, even our parents, do things because they thought it was the right thing to do at the time to meet a need. It usually is not done to purposely harm their child. Parents often have no idea the lasting impact their words or actions have on their children. So, my negative core belief that I never make the right choices, or I am just inadequate in some way, is triggered by my friend's

ce for information purposes only. Remember, people, even our parents, do things because they thought it was the right thing to do at the time to meet a need. It usually is not done to purposely harm their child. Parents often have no idea the lasting impact their words or actions have on their children. So, my negative core belief that I never make the right choices, or I am just inadequate in some way, is triggered by my friend'sts often have no idea the lasting impact their words or actions have on their children. So, my negative core belief that I never make the right choices, or I am just inadequate in some way, is triggered by my friend's statement, which is born out of envy. I tell myself that I am inadequate and that is why I made this awful purchase. That belief is then followed by my feeling which is undoubtedly anger or shame. I am feeling angry and ashamed of my purchase. I have allowed my friend's need to feel superior to determine how I feel about myself. That is the wrong approach. If you find yourself reacting to life in similar ways, and you recognize negative core beliefs, try this.

1. First, realize that the attitude and statement of the friend (the trigger) is a result of the friend meeting her own needs.

2. Challenge your negative belief about yourself. Demand evidence from yourself that the belief is true and then provide evidence to the contrary. If you are fair with yourself, you will find much evidence that counters the negative belief.

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