Are You Asking Enough Questions?
Questions are a powerful communication tool that can help you advance your business, gain rapport with friends, and create harmony at home.Yet, many people avoid asking questions. They believe that asking questions implies weakness, reveals ignorance, or shows submission. People also avoid questions because they fear answers that cause change. And so, they prefer to continue making mistakes or to suffer with having less.Actually, asking questions is powerful. When you ask questions, you choose the topic and guide the conversation. The key is to ask high value, positive questions that move people's thinking toward the ideas that serve your agenda. Here's how.state of an organization?" My response is, "A great deal." In fact, the status quo of any organization is almost always wrong.

The trouble with the status quo isn't that it gets poor results. After all, if you know you're getting poor results, you can do something about it. You can start taking steps to turn them into good results. The trouble with the status quo is that it gets mediocre results but represents them as good results. And poor res

You've heard something like this before: "He's not a leader, he's a salesman." Or: "She was trying to motivate me but gave me a sales pitch instead!"

Being a sales person can provide a poor foundation for leadership. Because leading and selling, though they share certain qualities, are different activities. Most people go along in their jobs and careers without thinking through those differences and thus mix up the two in self-defeating ways.

I've seen good sales people fail when moved into leadership positions; and conversely, good leaders fail when they become sales people or use certain sales techniques to lead.

In both cases, they misunderstood the differences or missed them altogether and so couldn't align their words and actions to take advantage of those differences. You can manifestly improve your leadership and sales skills by understanding what such differences are.

Clearly, on the surface, both sales and leadership focus on ways to influence people to take action. Both sales people and leaders must be knowledgeable, skillful, enthusiastic, and convincing.

However, when we drill down into the functions of the relationships involved in selling and leading -- getting customers to purchase products or services as opposed to getting people to achieve organizational results -- the differences emerge.

Here are three defining differences between sales and leadership that can help you both as a sales person and a leader. Note the differences are variations on a single, decisive theme.

(1) Sales people must satisfy customers. Leaders often have to dissatisfy the people. People in most organizations are in thrall to a powerful force, the status quo. The status quo is simply the existing state of an organization. You might ask, "What's wrong with the existing state of an organization?" My response is, "A great deal." In fact, the status quo of any organization is almost always wrong.

The trouble with the status quo isn't that it gets poor results. After all, if you know you're getting poor results, you can do something about it. You can start taking steps to turn them into good results. The trouble with the status quo is that it gets mediocre results but represents them as good results. And poor resu

I've seen good sales people fail when moved into leadership positions; and conversely, good leaders fail when they become sales people or use certain sales techniques to lead.

In both cases, they misunderstood the differences or missed them altogether and so couldn't align their words and actions to take advantage of those differences. You can manifestly improve your leadership and sales skills by understanding what such differences are.

Clearly, on the surface, both sales and leadership focus on ways to influence people to take action. Both sales people and leaders must be knowledgeable, skillful, enthusiastic, and convincing.

However, when we drill down into the functions of the relationships involved in selling and leading -- getting customers to purchase products or services as opposed to getting people to achieve organizational results -- the differences emerge.

Here are three defining differences between sales and leadership that can help you both as a sales person and a leader. Note the differences are variations on a single, decisive theme.

(1) Sales people must satisfy customers. Leaders often have to dissatisfy the people. People in most organizations are in thrall to a powerful force, the status quo. The status quo is simply the existing state of an organization. You might ask, "What's wrong with the existing state of an organization?" My response is, "A great deal." In fact, the status quo of any organization is almost always wrong.

The trouble with the status quo isn't that it gets poor results. After all, if you know you're getting poor results, you can do something about it. You can start taking steps to turn them into good results. The trouble with the status quo is that it gets mediocre results but represents them as good results. And poor res

arly, on the surface, both sales and leadership focus on ways to influence people to take action. Both sales people and leaders must be knowledgeable, skillful, enthusiastic, and convincing.

However, when we drill down into the functions of the relationships involved in selling and leading -- getting customers to purchase products or services as opposed to getting people to achieve organizational results -- the differences emerge.

Here are three defining differences between sales and leadership that can help you both as a sales person and a leader. Note the differences are variations on a single, decisive theme.

(1) Sales people must satisfy customers. Leaders often have to dissatisfy the people. People in most organizations are in thrall to a powerful force, the status quo. The status quo is simply the existing state of an organization. You might ask, "What's wrong with the existing state of an organization?" My response is, "A great deal." In fact, the status quo of any organization is almost always wrong.

The trouble with the status quo isn't that it gets poor results. After all, if you know you're getting poor results, you can do something about it. You can start taking steps to turn them into good results. The trouble with the status quo is that it gets mediocre results but represents them as good results. And poor res

e defining differences between sales and leadership that can help you both as a sales person and a leader. Note the differences are variations on a single, decisive theme.

(1) Sales people must satisfy customers. Leaders often have to dissatisfy the people. People in most organizations are in thrall to a powerful force, the status quo. The status quo is simply the existing state of an organization. You might ask, "What's wrong with the existing state of an organization?" My response is, "A great deal." In fact, the status quo of any organization is almost always wrong.

The trouble with the status quo isn't that it gets poor results. After all, if you know you're getting poor results, you can do something about it. You can start taking steps to turn them into good results. The trouble with the status quo is that it gets mediocre results but represents them as good results. And poor res

state of an organization?" My response is, "A great deal." In fact, the status quo of any organization is almost always wrong.

The trouble with the status quo isn't that it gets poor results. After all, if you know you're getting poor results, you can do something about it. You can start taking steps to turn them into good results. The trouble with the status quo is that it gets mediocre results but represents them as good results. And poor results are less harmful to an organization than mediocre results misrepresented as good results.

Leadership is not about maintaining the status quo (as management does), it's about transforming the status quo to achieve big increases in results. Such transformation cannot be accomplished unless and until people are infused with a powerful dissatisfaction with the way things are. Sales people want customers to like them; but leaders may have to get some people angry with them and what they are challenging them to do. (If they don't have some of the people angry with them, those leaders might not be challenging all the people enough. Though watch out when you have ALL of the people angry with you.)

(2) Sales people get people to do what they want to do. Leaders aim to get people to do what they may not want to do and be ardently committed to doing it. Having people get out of the status quo to achieve great results means challenging them to be uncomfortable, do things in new ways, learn new skills, and take on perplexing tasks. Good leaders live by the rule that it is better to do the new, right things in the temporarily wrong ways than to do the old wrong things in the right ways.

(3) Sales people must counteract bad feelings on the part of customers. Leaders may have to live with and even accept bad feelings on the part of the people while getting them to move toward their organization's greater goal. When you lead people to go to the metaphorical mountain, for instance, many of them will want to go to the nearby hill or to stay where they are. Standing pat is more comfortable and less risky than going to the mountain. But the organization badly needs them to move to the mountain. That's where leadership comes in. In sales, you hop on people's disapproval right away and try to mitigat